Which Do You Choose?
The Blue Pill or The Red Pill?
It's The Last Question You'll Ever Need To Answer
From Your Mind
Choosing Radical Responsibility Means Being Radically Responsible For The Choices The You Make...
Both Your Conscious Choices AND Your Unconscious Choices
What is it, really, Radical Responsibility?
How can I use it in practical ways?
Part 1 of 6
THERE ARE NO RULES HERE
Do not try to make the ideas in this website into rules.
These ideas are offered as considerations, perspectives of thought, and as possible avenues of experimentation to be used for your personal development and enjoyment.
If you take these ideas as rules you are trying to give away your personal authority to the author of this website, and he refuses to be used as such an authority for you. Generate and sustain your own authority through doing your own experiments.
You can consciously create and live in a nearly continuous state of radiant ecstasy by navigating to Archetypal Love in your relationships.
(MAP OF 3 DOMAINS OF RELATIONSHIP)
Do not expect yourself to already know what Radical Responsibility or Archetypal Relationship is. We are not educated about these things in the normal course of our public education. You inherited Standard Issue Human Thoughtware. It got you this far. It won't take you much further.
Since we do not already know about Radical Responsibility the appropriate form of learning to apply would be Expansive Learning. In Expansive Learning you start from knowing that you do not already know the most important elements about the thing you are trying to learn about. Then each new observation and experience is respected and accepted for what it is without having to make it fit into anything you already know.
As more and more islands of experience and knowledge are assimilated, sooner or later they begin connecting to each other in practical and understandable ways, establishing entirely new knowledge continents. Through continued expansion, the new continents come to rival in both size and usefulness the original knowledge continents given to you by your birth culture. In Expansive Learning there is no top end to what you can discover and learn about.
Although the knowledge continents of Adolescent Level Responsibility and Adult Level Responsibility are not directly connected to the knowledge continent of Radical Responsibility, it turns out that only after thoroughly understanding the distinctions between Adolescent and Adult, can we look into the horizon and detect that there is indeed such a thing as the Radical or Archetypal.
Do not expect to enter Radical Responsibility or Archetypal Relationship if you are not already creating Extraordinary (Adult level Responsibility) Human Relationship.
Do not expect to enter Radical Responsibility if you don't already know your Gremlin's Shadow Principles by heart and he sits at your side ready to spot other Gremlins and to create nonlinar possibility at your beck and call.
Part 2 of 6
Radical Responsibility is a context, not a procedure.
This is a big statement and warrants unfolding.
A 'context' is a container or a framework that catches and holds certain clarities in the same way that a fishnet gathers fish. If you redesigned your fishnet with a wider or narrower mouth, with larger or finer netting, your design modifications would change the kinds of fish that you could catch.
The same is true with context. If you adopt a different context for relationship then you will find that a different quality and experience of relationship shows up for you. Just like with the fishnet, the proof of whether or not you have shifted your relationship context is whether or not new qualities of relationship appear.
Shifting the context of relationship, for example, is probably not one of those skills that your Dad took you aside to explain. The manner in which Archetypal Relationship replaces the context of Extraordinary Human Relationship, for example, is indirect, subtle and profound, beyond the Box’s capacity to arrange.
You can also shift the context of education, money, entertainment, conflict, not knowing, health, beliefs, community, etc. etc. etc.
If you do not shift the contexts at work in your life, who will.
To shift context it helps to build new gameworlds to live, work, and play in.
The Box demands simplified instructions for making things happen, like, “First pull up, then pull down.” “Lather, rinse, repeat.” “Insert tab A into slot B.” “Push to start.” The Box wants linear techniques that produce surefire results. The Box has designed our modern culture with an editorial preference towards science and technology. But, in the case of relationship, what the Box wants and how things actually work do not coincide. Archetypal Relationship is multidimensional and alive, writhing with subtle never-repeated energy patterns. Ordinary linear instructions will not help you. This is why some people who would perhaps make wonderful parents cannot get pregnant. Their Box wants a child but something in their relationship context produces physiological conditions that won’t allow it.
The difference between what the Box wants and how things actually work is also why using Viagra or Cialis to make a man’s dick hard will not necessarily enhance a couple’s sexual intimacy. Archetypal Relationship is a context, not a drug.
Think of it this way. Having top-quality recipes does not guarantee that you can produce an extraordinary meal. Creating extraordinary meals comes from being an extraordinary cook, not from having an extraordinary cookbook. Extraordinary cooking is a mysterious faculty that takes years of training, practice and luck to develop, and is completely independent of the brand of your kitchen appliances.
Does having elegant furniture in your living room guarantee that the people who come to visit will connect to each other with warmth and harmony? No. Does having an impressive website guarantee that you will have lots of paying clients? No. Does wearing superb clothing or make-up guarantee that someone superb will be attracted to you? No. In the same way, following a step-by-step procedure will not guarantee that you enter Archetypal Relationship.
If this book were trying to give you a procedure it would have ended before reaching considerations about Archetypal Relationship. There is no system, method or procedure that guarantees entry into Archetypal domains. And, there ARE ways of behaving that increase your chances of being in Archetypal Relationship. This website is about those ways. The gates of heaven are more prone to open if your behavior already resonates with what is on the other side of the gates.
Part 3 of 6
To investigate the Archetypal purpose of Radical Responsibility, let us ask the bigger question: What is the Archetypal purpose of the universe? One would have to be galactically arrogant to seriously consider answering such a question. But we need an answer. One way to figure out what the universe is up to now would be to review what the universe has been up to during the past few billion years. The pattern seems rather clear: dust, to diatoms, to dinosaurs, to Danny DeVito – the Archetypal purpose of the universe appears to be Evolution.
The organic tissues constituting the saltwater computer of the human form represent a potential for evolution that surpasses our own capacity to estimate. This vast and awesome evolutionary potential, however, is imprisoned and limited by our free volitional power controlled by our Box. It is our Box that stands guard between our evolvable being and the evolutionary purpose of the universe. The Box’s self-defending purpose prevails. This is the true impact of free will.
When the purpose of your Box is unchanged from its original survival purpose then your Box is dedicated to defending itself from the universe’s efforts to bring your Being through evolutionary steps. As a side effect ypu are left stranded in Ordinary Human Relationship.
When you are more initiated into Adulthood, then the purpose of your Box shifts from defending itself to expanding itself. Instead of trying to keep everything the same, your Box starts seeking how to learn, grow, and expand. Have you noticed any such changes happening in your own behaviors lately?
When you change the strategy of your Box to that it aligns to the evolutionary forces of the universe you gain functionality in the responsible Adult ego state and can enter Extraordinary Human Relationship. These are joyous times!
When you develop the ability to discern between the mechanical busy-ness of your Box and your natural ability 'to be' and to 'be-with,' you can then make a paper-thin gap between the urges of your Box and what you choose to do, so that the Box’s motivations become irrelevant.
With the Box’s mechanical drivers and defenses disconnected from your actions it is like the wheels of a car when the clutch is disengaged. The engine can go as fast as it wants but the wheels won’t take you anywhere. Without the Box fully in charge defending its status quo you are free to be influenced by evolutionary forces and can be moved in unexpected directions (freaking out your Box in an irrelevant way...) such as towards Archetypal Relationship and Radical Responsibility.
Your interactions with other people and circumstances in the world can then become a theater in which Archetypal Love can perform. This, however, does not mean the end to all your problems. For example, Radical Responsibility is not intended to solve the problem of loneliness. Actually Radical Responsibility is not intended to solve any problems. The value of Radical Responsibility is that it creates the possibility for Archetypal Man and Archetypal Woman to be functionally present in the world.
How can you figure out what this all means? How do you work with these conditions?
There Are Two Forms Of "WHAT IS"
Part 4 of &
TWO FORMS OF "WHAT IS"
You do not have to understand this next section to continue reading in this website.
However, if you DO understand this section, then you absolutely need it to continue:
If you are aware of the illusion of opposites (e.g. the illusion that light and dark are opposites, which is an illusion because you cannot have one without the other), you also recognize that using the perspective that time flows from the future through the present and into the past is naïve. I bring this up because I have suggested that the Archetypal purpose of relationship is Evolution. The standard understanding of Evolution is that Evolution depends on the flow of time. We ordinarily imagine that things slowly or suddenly evolve during a passage of time.
By saying that the Archetypal purpose of relationship is Evolution I am not associating relationship with a past-present-future “trying to achieve a goal” flow-of-time orientation. Nondualistic clarity sees the eternal NOW as having no flow of time. In NOW there is no time.
To understand the overall purpose of relationship as Evolution without discounting the Archetypal clarity of the nondual perspective that the eternal NOW has no time flow, you must have the additional clarity that, in the timeless, eternal NOW there are actually two forms of “what is.”
There is a passive form of “what is” and an active form of “what is.”
The passive form of “what is” is accepting what is, as it is, here and now in the moment without judgment.
The active form of “what is” is conscious creation.
Taking the orientation of creating what is, is Radical Responsibility.
In the same way that creating does not happen in time and only happens NOW, Evolution also only happens NOW.
Archetypal Relationship lives in the orientation that what happens NOW is either accepted or created, both of which include conscious responsibility.
Radical Responsibility is not about trying to evolve into something different in the future, but rather consciousness of 'Evolution happening' NOW.
The Conditions Created By Radical Responsibility Are Archetypal
Part 5 of 6
Learning how to function in Archetypal conditions starts with you taking responsibility for having the potential to represent Archetypal Masculine and Feminine forces. Since Archetypal understanding is not provided to us by our culture, the first steps in gaining that understanding on your own can be a little debilitating. It is important to allow yourself time and space to grow accustomed to handling the sharpness of the clarity that is characteristic of Archetypal perspectives. Sharpness is, well... sharp.
As a college student, I was home visiting my parents over Christmas. I had been practicing fencing in college and was eager to show off my sword-fighting talents to my new girlfriend. My parents were not at home at the time and I took advantage of the opportunity by removing one of their two Spanish swords from a false shield-at-arms that an interior-decorator had mounted over my parents’ living room fireplace. The blade of the sword was not sharpened, but the sword was pointed and made out of steel. I parried and lunged around the living room, barefoot, proudly showing off as best I could. Then when my “demonstration” was over, I absentmindedly let the sword drop to my side, assuming unconsciously that, since it was a fake sword, I did not have to take any of the usual precautions. In one swift move the sword sliced open the top of my right foot. I still carry the scar today, a reminding factor that handling sharpness requires extraordinary and unbroken attention. The same is true with the sharpness of Archetypal perspectives. Handle them with care. No matter if a clay water pitcher hits a rock, or a rock hits the pitcher, it is going to bad for the pitcher. Diamond clarity easily slices through illusion wherever it touches the illusion. Holding Archetypal perspectives requires more than ordinary responsibility. Holding Archetypal perspectives requires Radical Responsibility.
From the archetypal perspective of Radical Responsibility.
What does all this mea? It means if you are sick, you are sick. You are not being punished.
If you lost your keys, you lost your keys. Your are not stupid.
If you win a contract or lose a contract either way it has no meaning about the value of your work.
Yes, there are certainly causes to what happens or fails to happen. There may also be consequences. There may be after effects or side effects to what you do or do not do, and these you can learn to navigate better and better by paying closer attention to the details of what and how you create with your communications and choices.
Yes, the Universe is a giant feedback generator and feedback is gold.
Noticing consequences can be extremely useful, but consequences have no meaning attached unless you attach it.
It does not even mean anything that the consequences do not mean anything!
Even if other people attach meaning to what is or to consequences, you do not have to.
Part 6 of 6
The perspective that everything is neutral can at first seem to be inhuman.
For example, how could it be neutral that someone is raped or beaten or robbed? How could it be meaningless if millions of innocent people are killed in political upheavals? That children are enslaved or sexually molested? That animals are routinely tortured? There must be meaning to the 'terrorist attack' on the World Trade Center! Or to the devastation of tropical rain forests! To ignore the meaning of such atrocities seems completely inhuman.
Back to relationships: You can create and navigate Ordinary Human Relationship (Adolescent Level Responsibility full of Low Drama) and Extraordinary Human Relationship (Adulth Level Responsibility). Taking Radical Responsibility opens the door to creating and navigating Archetypal Relationship.
In the phrase Archetypal Relationship you will notice that the word 'human' is missing.
That omission is on purpose.
The reason that human beings do not enter the domain of Archetypal Relationship is because human beings as originally packaged are too cumbersome. Human beings come with their Box.
The Boxes used by us human beings to give ourselves the secure feeling of having an identity are meaning-making machines. The entryway to Archetypal territories is too narrow to bring your Ordinary Child or Adolescent Level Responsibility Boxes along. Taking Radical Responsibility cuts away the entanglements created by the meaning-making machinery of the Box. But it also cuts away Ordinary and Extraordinary Humanness.
You do not have to worry about becoming inhuman, superhuman, nonhuman or subhuman. Shifting to Archetypal is not volitional, meaning that you cannot just decide to go there. You can only put yourself into a position of necessity as a proposal for the universe to bump you into the Archetypal. You can make that proposal very often. The universe does not mind...
The Archetypal itself decides if shifting you would serve the Archetypal.
Shifting to Archetypal gives you no freedom from conscience, from moral principles, or from respecting human dignity. Quite the opposite is true. Shifting to Archetypal occurs spontaneously in response to objective necessity, and such necessity only arises if you have appropriately prepared yourself. Some of those preparations are taking Radical Responsibility for Conscience, for Principles, and for Dignity.
If you do take Radical Responsibility and enter the Archetypal domains, you will find that the shift unleashes tremendous energy reserves that were previously consumed in dealing with human meanings. The extra energy is powerful.
Aligning yourself to Archetypal forces makes you a conductor of Archetypal power.
What you soon realize is that although you have access to Archetypal power, the power is not yours. The power cannot be used to accomplish your Box’s or your Gremlin’s purposes. Archetypal power can only be used to accomplish Archetypal tasks and purposes.
You are probably accustomed to the many shortcuts and loopholes used for 'cheating' and 'lying' while using power in the Ordinary Human domains. Deceptions and omissions are allowed here with little consequence. If you can get away with it using cleverness, balls, or Chutzpah, it is allowed, even admired.
Not so in the Extraordinary / Adult Human domains. Here there are fewer rules but also fewer loopholes. Excuses are not so readily accepted. Agreements are broken with greater consequence.
In Archetypal domains the rules apply even more strictly. There are chambers and spaces where there may even be but one rule for using power, but that rule applies absolutely. Understanding and following that rule requires Radical Responsibility. This is where the magic happens.